Assertiveness: The Goldilocks of Communication

Assertiveness is the quality of expressing your views, opinions or feelings, in a calm and clear manner, without becoming either verbally aggressive or too passive. It’s a fine balance to strike, and we don’t always get it right. Let’s have a look into the 3 most common styles of communication that people generally use. I’m … [Read more…]

Are you clinically depressed?

Having clinical depression is more than feeling temporarily unhappy with how things have been going on for you. If you want to know whether you are clinically depressed, this is the diagnostic criteria. It should include at least 5 of the following 9 symptoms present nearly every day for at least two weeks (DSM-5, APA, 2013*): … [Read more…]

What causes depression?

1st depressive episode There is no single cause for depression. Studies have shown that both biological (e.g., family history of depression) and environmental factors (e.g., unresponsive parenting) make people more vulnerable to depression. In turn, this vulnerability interacts with the effects of negative life events (e.g., a recent loss/someone close to you died) leading to … [Read more…]

5 Things you can do when you feel sad

Feeling sad is a normal experience in life. However, if these normal feelings of sadness occur for most of the day and you have lost interest or pleasure in daily activities, then you might be depressed.  How can I help myself to feel better? Talk to a friend/family member/someone you trust. Having the opportunity to … [Read more…]

What is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness has been defined as the awareness that arises through “paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally” (Kabat-Zinn, 1994, p. 4*). Other similar descriptions of mindfulness have emphasised the non-judgemental observation of the ongoing stream of internal and external stimuli as they arise. Mindfulness has its origins in … [Read more…]

To Engage or Not To Engage in Therapy: That Is the Question

At some point in your life, you will have felt sad, demotivated or anxious. This could be associated with a particular negative life event, such as the loss of a loved one (through death, separation, divorce), loss of career (with potential financial difficulties), illness/injury/ loss of health, or relationship struggles. The impact these negative life … [Read more…]

What is procrastination and why do we do it?

  Let me start with a confession: I’ve been wanting to write an article about procrastination, but have been putting it off for a long time… so ironically, I’ve been procrastinating about procrastination (writing). What is procrastination? Procrastination refers to delaying or not completing a given task, and instead engaging in a less important one, … [Read more…]

5 Ways to Control your Anger

What is anger? Anger is an emotion associated with the perception of threat. When we perceive a threat, our fight or flight response is activated, and thus our body is ready to deal with the threat. The fight or flight response has a survival function, as it was designed to protect us from predators and … [Read more…]